Quiet nights

I've been catching up quite abit recently with my secondary school friends. It started early this year and I must admit it has been very fulfulling. We've sort of drifted apart a few years back when they decided to settle down and have kids. You know.. when people settle down and start a family, somehow they enter into a different world, a strange world...

I didn't used to understand this. I always thought everyone has to keep in touch with everyone forever. Why should we dump our friends for our partners whom we will never know if they can or will ever remember their vows of "till death do us part".

Now I do. I've entered into this strange world. Most of my time is spent just being a couch potato with my DH at home, lounging in front of the tv. But I'm glad to say that I do still have the occassional outings with my friends, whom I shall categorise as St Nick's frens, JC frens, AIA frens, Aviva frens and the remaining... "others".

My St Nick's friends have been warning me, "don't get too hooked up with your DH", "don't have kids too soon" or I'll end up like them. They enjoy clubbing & drinking now. I beg to differ. Kinda late I feel. I've been through those days. Probably the difference is they married young, I didn't. I had my share of ups & downs, my share of heartbreaks, my share of tears & hugging the toilet bowl for at least 7 consecutive birthdays because of lamborginis and waterfalls. I'm tired of these late nights hard partying and at this moment, nothing beats more than a quiet night out of coffee or chit chat sessions with my girlfriends and the few guys who somehow have become my semi girlfriends as well. Or a romantic dinner with my DH. Or... surprisingly, spending time with my parents. I had not imagined the day will ever come when I truly appreciate my dad & mom. Thinking back on those fights I used to have with them during my growing up years, it seemed then that it was impossible. Ironically, after marriage, I treasure them more & realise that i do miss mum's cooking afterall!

I pray I will never have to take back my words.